My mother is Nicole Brown, murdered in her own home on November 24, 2018 while in the process of divorcing, one of the most dangerous times for women. My heart bleeds for Sydney and Justin who were raised by the male that murdered their mother.
Kim Goldman interviews someone who knows exactly what you are talking about regarding the most dangerous time for someone that has been abused by their husband or boyfriend. Leaving brings the rage.
I want to offer one gentle thought that isn't from me, but is from Gavin de Becker who was a consultant for the prosecution in the murder trial and an expert on violence and abuse: referring to someone like O.J. Simpson as a 'monster' can be counterproductive. He was just a man. When we think of a murderer and abuser (or anyone else) like they are a monster, it does at least two things: 1) ignores the fact that they aren't all powerful and that they can be stopped and 2) it ignores that fact that men/people like that are PEOPLE who walk among us every day. All of us not only know a Nicole Brown, we also know an O.J. Simpson who is abusing his partner day in and day out. If we think of them as somehow separate from us or from ordinary people, it absolves each of us of the responsibility to see them for what they are and try to stop them.
None of that resolves the enormous pain of families and communities but hopefully we could help stop this from happening again and trying to be as brave as Ron Goldman.
I was Nicole Simpson, I will always be Nicole Simpson.
I married an abusive batterer when I was 21. The Doctor kept taking me off birth control pills because of “fainting issues” and I’d go to a different doctor to get more. Eventually we went to condoms. I was starting to see red flags, but he hadn’t touched me.……yet. Instead, sensing my distancing from him, trying to last until our lease was over, he sabotaged the condoms. I found that information out only 7 years ago from one of his friends, who he had confided in on his effort to trap me. So, a few months later, instead of the end of the lease, it was instead a wedding and the start of my torture. It was the early 80’s. It was what ‘nice girls did back then’.
The abuse didn’t start physically until after our son was born, 5 months after the marriage. After 2 years of beatings, broken bones, too many bruises and concussions to count, I left him and returned home, to my parents house and he returned to his parents house, 3 miles away. I hired a divorce attorney and started that arduous process. I showed up in court every time scheduled, armed with photos, police reports, hospital records, a letter from my OB/GYN who saw bruises. My husband would switch attorneys, not show up, not fill out the necessary paperwork, etc.
Eventually my attorney asked just for the divorce, no child support, no visitation schedule, just my freedom and my personal possessions. The Judge refused to give me a divorce. He proclaimed, “This sounds like a contested Divorce and I will not grant a Contested Divorce. My husband wasn’t even there to contest, another no show. This was before no fault divorce became a legal right. I had spent over $5,000.00 and still had to stay married to a proven abuser. Over the next few years, still living apart, but legally married, he quit drugs and seemed better. Again he got me pregnant. I moved back in with him in my 5th month of pregnancy, when I started showing. I was terrified. This time the beatings started within days, the pregnancy didn’t stop him. One time he doused me full of Charcoal Starter and just started flicking his Zippo lighter, while I stood ready to jump through a 2nd story glass sliding door. I left for good as my daughter was just crawling. I saw him throw my 4 1/2 y/o son across the room by his face. My son had climbed on his back trying to get him off of me, while his father was simultaneously chocking me and slamming my head on a concrete floor. When he let go of me, with 1 hand to get my son off his back, I was able to get out front m under him. I raced to the kitchen and grabbed the biggest butcher knives I had. I held it armed, above my head and I’ll never forget what I said next. I said, “You have fucked me up for years, you will Not Fuck Up My Kids”. I begged him to come at me one more time. I know without a doubt one of us would die. I think he got scared. I told our son to get his sister, my purse and keys and get in the bedroom. I backed up into the bedroom after the kids were safely in there. I knocked a dresser over, blocking the door. That gave me time to cut the screen and go out the window. We raced to the car with the clothes we were wearing. As I was pulling out of the driveway 4 or 5 police cars were arriving. Neighbors had heard my son screaming, “You’re killing my mommy” and called the police. He always ripped the phone out of the wall before the fights started. The cops blocked me in and wouldn’t let me leave. I didn’t know it at the time but my head was full of blood. There was blood outside on the car. It was everywhere. My kids and I escaped that day for good. We never spent another minute with him, ever.
After about 5 years, I did get a divorce, by Publication, an ad in the paper. I never got my clothes, my children’s things, only the contents of my purse and the clothes we had on.
I never got nor asked for Child Support. I knew he had no real interest in our kids, only in me. I knew that every penny he may give me, he would extract a pound of flesh. The money would never be worth my peace of mind or my kids stability and serenity. I had maps where every police station was in every suburb I drove through to work and back. We had Orders of Protection. He couldn’t legally come near any of us, but he’d follow us in his car. He’d park across the street from my apartment and just watch and wait. He’d always pull away as the police were a block away. That went on for years.
Eventually he found someone new and the stalking wasn’t as often, but I could never put my guard down. I moved 8 times in the next 5 years. Eventually, he started beating the new girl, causing permanent brain damage. He spent time in jail for that. Guess who was a Correctional Officer at that Jail, unbeknownst to him. My big sister. She worked nights. Every hour, every shift, she would unlock the section door to do her rounds, then kick it open, making the loudest bang that reverberated throughout the cell block. As she walked through she would say to all the prisoners, “Gentlemen, you have my ex-brother-in-law to thank for this interruption in your sleep. Every hour, every shift. He threatened to kill her when he got out. She rattled off her address and said, “Come get me. I’ve got guns and I can’t wait to use them”.
When this new girls trial was happening, all his family testified she was the problem, an alcoholic, yada yada. The DA called me. Would I be willing to testify for her.
I did, but never told them if I would or wouldn’t show up. I didn’t know myself until that morning. His public defender objected, and the Judge called for a 10 minute recess while he looked up the law on me testifying. After the recess, I was so visibly shaking the Judge asked 3 Bailiffs to stand between us, then said I could testify to any incidents that could be backed up by Police, Hospital or Doctors records, did I have anything relevant. Boy did I have relevant facts. After testifying about 20 minutes, the Judge interrupted me saying he had heard enough. He was sentenced to the maximum sentence, With No Time Served, meaning the 18 months or so that he sat in jail, awaiting his trial would Not Count or be applied to his sentence. My sister was able to get her nightly bit of revenge on my behalf for another few years. He wasn’t very popular among his cell block, needless to say.
He died in 2000. Family members saw the Obituary in the newspaper. I guess after getting out of Jail, he promptly left the state. He died 2,000 miles away. It really wasn’t the end for my children or me. I still have horrible nightmares, have been diagnosed with PTSD and will never ever get married again. Those 9 years were enough to last a lifetime for me. It’s been 4 decades now and I still can’t conceive even the thought of marrying again.
The GOP want to Repeal No Fault Divorce.
They want women to again live through what I was lucky enough to survive. They want women trapped in a marriage having babies.
I will fight that until my last breath in any way I can.
I’m sorry this is so long if anyone is still reading. Please please fight against any repeal of No Fault Divorce.
My God. I feel honoured to have been able to read your story. Thank you for sharing it. He was broken,never tried to fix himself, and tried to take you down with him. I am so grateful you and your children escaped. Sending love from across the ocean.
Thank you for your kind words. My daughter has no memory of her father at all. When they were small, sometimes at night I would hear my son telling his sister why they don’t see their Dad.
“That’s what it takes: the batterer has to be stopped. He will not stop himself. He has to be imprisoned, or killed, or she has to escape and hide, sometimes for the rest of her life, sometimes until he finds another woman to ‘love.’”
Kim Goldman also had an excellent podcast telling the truth about the real OJ Simpson and the victims of that murderer. Daniel Petrocelli’s book about the civil trial where he represented Fred Goldman is also a must read. Most people have no idea that ALL of the evidence was finally presented at that trial that proved that Simpson physically abused Nicole and murdered Nicole and Ron Goldman.
The Court TV docuseries OJ25 (2020) is the best and most truthful account of the trial.
2016 Vulture interview with juror Sheila Woods:
I guess maybe black people cheering was less about O.J. and more about the politics of the LAPD at the time, police brutality. A lot of their catharsis was bigger than O.J. I can understand that. But at the end of the day, two people were murdered.
I think most people thought we based our decision on race. Race never came up in the topic of our deliberation, or even how the LAPD treated black people.
Like, regarding Fuhrman, none of his comments really …
The thing with Fuhrman was once his credibility was shot, you really could discount anything he said. He was definitely a liar — he lied on the stand — and when he came back to the court, he took the fifth on everything. Why would you trust anything he said? He was the detective that found all this evidence: the blood on the Bronco, on the back fence, on the glove … all of that created reasonable doubt.
Was there a moment in particular during the trial that really swayed your decision towards reasonable doubt?
Yeah, when they started talking about the blood evidence. There was, like, a milliliter of blood they couldn’t account for. And they found blood on the back fence of Nicole’s condo, and that particular blood also had the additive in there. That additive is only found in [a test tube of blood], so why would the blood sample on that back fence contain that additive unless somebody took the blood from the test tube and placed it there?
Do you think O.J. was framed?
I don’t know if he was necessarily framed. I think O.J. may know something about what happened, but I just don’t think he did it. I think it was more than one person, just because of the way she was killed. I don’t know how he could have just left that bloody scene — because it was bloody — and got back into his Bronco and not have it filled with blood. And then go back home and go in the front door, up the stairs to his bedroom … That carpet was snow white in his house. He should have blood all over him or bruises because Ron Goldman was definitely fighting for his life. He had defensive cuts on his shoes and on his hands.
O.J. only had that little cut on his finger. If [Goldman] was kicking to death, you would think that the killer would have gotten some bruises on his body. They showed us photos of O.J. with just his underwear just two days after, and he had no bruises or anything on his body.
Fred Goldman and Kim Goldman both denied Trayvon Martin’s murder was racially motivated, and Kim even said she agreed with George Zimmerman’s acquittal. Fred went after Sydney Simpson and Justin Simpson for money several years ago. They’re racist trash just like you.
“Let's not be naive. It will also always be a part of pop culture because we live in a racist, white supremacist society. White America thinks that it is fine that they murder black people all day every day and get away with it. But this is the first high profile case we ever really saw where a black person (allegedly) murdered a white person and got away with it.
Make no mistake. They don't give a flying fµck about Nicole Brown and neither do I. White women like her get abused and murdered every day by their own people. Nobody would still be talking about this case with such fervour if the racial element didn't exist. Maybe when they care this much about black people getting murdered, I will have some fucks to give.”
“I don’t want to hear about all the mistakes the prosecution made. I want to know how he killed two people without a bruise, scratch or cut on his body.
How did he managed to rush home in his bronco and only have two drops of blood in/on the car?
How did he manage to have a cut on his hand but not on the glove?
Lastly, how did he managed to do all that stabbing and not manage any cuts to the glove?
Oh and manage to pull all of this off, and catch a flight. How?
This would better help me understand the “miscarriage of justice” everyone purports to have occurred.”
A lot of men are like this. They must feel in control and satisfy that through their actions. It is true - watch how a man acts around dogs, kids, and old people. If you think anything is strange in how they interact, don't question yourself why. Look for a man who is genuinely affectionate with animals, in particular.
I lived south of LA and had to live through the barrage to media coverage. I know that O.J. was the monster the defense painted him to be. He easily guilty. .Nicole Brown Simpson and Ron Goldman never had a chance for justice. The pop culture adoration of a wealthy good-looking BLACK award winning athlete with a dazzling smile who became a pretty good actor gave a golden ticket and a get out of jail card.
The news coverage of OJs violence and Nicole’s best efforts to get help from the inadequate legal and social service systems were reported through a foggy lens. It never felt like she had any standing in the case. The whole trial was a circus that seemed to whiz by the actual evidence of spousal abuse.
There was solid evidence including Nichole’s documenting each violent episode. There were also witnessed who knew the truth. But it’s the same “women are not believed” against a beloved celebrity. This case drew international attention. It was a big message that abused woman don’t matter so just keep hour mouth shut.
That message is reinforced daily by what happens every nook and cranny across the world. Man purchases gun illegally, because he had a restraining order against him. man convinces girlfriend to talk to him. Woman chooses to come out onto the front porch because she had her sleeping child inside. They talk briefly. She refuses to leave with him. He pulls out a gun and kills her.
No restraining order saved her, no thorough background gun check saved her and a judge denied her request to have the restraining order extended because he didn’t bother to actually listen to her.
We are in a all,encompassing living pandemic of disrespect, anger, violence misogynistic beliefs which probably started by early man. Passed from generation to generation until it runs smack dab into a generation of educated, politicized, outspoken,self-sufficient, fearless women who stand up and demanded the right to vote. Current generations have gained much in society except when you look at violence against from
1 of 4 women will die in their lifetime from domestic violence with an intimate partner. Domestic violence - primarily men against women, intimately related, typically starts with actions like slap on the face, shoving, simulating strangulation , and verbal promises of increased violence.
Next is the danger zone. Most extreme violence aand death occurs after the woman and children attempt ro leave. Oir social system
My mother is Nicole Brown, murdered in her own home on November 24, 2018 while in the process of divorcing, one of the most dangerous times for women. My heart bleeds for Sydney and Justin who were raised by the male that murdered their mother.
Kim Goldman interviews someone who knows exactly what you are talking about regarding the most dangerous time for someone that has been abused by their husband or boyfriend. Leaving brings the rage.
I want to offer one gentle thought that isn't from me, but is from Gavin de Becker who was a consultant for the prosecution in the murder trial and an expert on violence and abuse: referring to someone like O.J. Simpson as a 'monster' can be counterproductive. He was just a man. When we think of a murderer and abuser (or anyone else) like they are a monster, it does at least two things: 1) ignores the fact that they aren't all powerful and that they can be stopped and 2) it ignores that fact that men/people like that are PEOPLE who walk among us every day. All of us not only know a Nicole Brown, we also know an O.J. Simpson who is abusing his partner day in and day out. If we think of them as somehow separate from us or from ordinary people, it absolves each of us of the responsibility to see them for what they are and try to stop them.
None of that resolves the enormous pain of families and communities but hopefully we could help stop this from happening again and trying to be as brave as Ron Goldman.
Thank you so much for speaking up for Nicole & Ron. They should be the ones remembered, not OJ.
I was Nicole Simpson, I will always be Nicole Simpson.
I married an abusive batterer when I was 21. The Doctor kept taking me off birth control pills because of “fainting issues” and I’d go to a different doctor to get more. Eventually we went to condoms. I was starting to see red flags, but he hadn’t touched me.……yet. Instead, sensing my distancing from him, trying to last until our lease was over, he sabotaged the condoms. I found that information out only 7 years ago from one of his friends, who he had confided in on his effort to trap me. So, a few months later, instead of the end of the lease, it was instead a wedding and the start of my torture. It was the early 80’s. It was what ‘nice girls did back then’.
The abuse didn’t start physically until after our son was born, 5 months after the marriage. After 2 years of beatings, broken bones, too many bruises and concussions to count, I left him and returned home, to my parents house and he returned to his parents house, 3 miles away. I hired a divorce attorney and started that arduous process. I showed up in court every time scheduled, armed with photos, police reports, hospital records, a letter from my OB/GYN who saw bruises. My husband would switch attorneys, not show up, not fill out the necessary paperwork, etc.
Eventually my attorney asked just for the divorce, no child support, no visitation schedule, just my freedom and my personal possessions. The Judge refused to give me a divorce. He proclaimed, “This sounds like a contested Divorce and I will not grant a Contested Divorce. My husband wasn’t even there to contest, another no show. This was before no fault divorce became a legal right. I had spent over $5,000.00 and still had to stay married to a proven abuser. Over the next few years, still living apart, but legally married, he quit drugs and seemed better. Again he got me pregnant. I moved back in with him in my 5th month of pregnancy, when I started showing. I was terrified. This time the beatings started within days, the pregnancy didn’t stop him. One time he doused me full of Charcoal Starter and just started flicking his Zippo lighter, while I stood ready to jump through a 2nd story glass sliding door. I left for good as my daughter was just crawling. I saw him throw my 4 1/2 y/o son across the room by his face. My son had climbed on his back trying to get him off of me, while his father was simultaneously chocking me and slamming my head on a concrete floor. When he let go of me, with 1 hand to get my son off his back, I was able to get out front m under him. I raced to the kitchen and grabbed the biggest butcher knives I had. I held it armed, above my head and I’ll never forget what I said next. I said, “You have fucked me up for years, you will Not Fuck Up My Kids”. I begged him to come at me one more time. I know without a doubt one of us would die. I think he got scared. I told our son to get his sister, my purse and keys and get in the bedroom. I backed up into the bedroom after the kids were safely in there. I knocked a dresser over, blocking the door. That gave me time to cut the screen and go out the window. We raced to the car with the clothes we were wearing. As I was pulling out of the driveway 4 or 5 police cars were arriving. Neighbors had heard my son screaming, “You’re killing my mommy” and called the police. He always ripped the phone out of the wall before the fights started. The cops blocked me in and wouldn’t let me leave. I didn’t know it at the time but my head was full of blood. There was blood outside on the car. It was everywhere. My kids and I escaped that day for good. We never spent another minute with him, ever.
After about 5 years, I did get a divorce, by Publication, an ad in the paper. I never got my clothes, my children’s things, only the contents of my purse and the clothes we had on.
I never got nor asked for Child Support. I knew he had no real interest in our kids, only in me. I knew that every penny he may give me, he would extract a pound of flesh. The money would never be worth my peace of mind or my kids stability and serenity. I had maps where every police station was in every suburb I drove through to work and back. We had Orders of Protection. He couldn’t legally come near any of us, but he’d follow us in his car. He’d park across the street from my apartment and just watch and wait. He’d always pull away as the police were a block away. That went on for years.
Eventually he found someone new and the stalking wasn’t as often, but I could never put my guard down. I moved 8 times in the next 5 years. Eventually, he started beating the new girl, causing permanent brain damage. He spent time in jail for that. Guess who was a Correctional Officer at that Jail, unbeknownst to him. My big sister. She worked nights. Every hour, every shift, she would unlock the section door to do her rounds, then kick it open, making the loudest bang that reverberated throughout the cell block. As she walked through she would say to all the prisoners, “Gentlemen, you have my ex-brother-in-law to thank for this interruption in your sleep. Every hour, every shift. He threatened to kill her when he got out. She rattled off her address and said, “Come get me. I’ve got guns and I can’t wait to use them”.
When this new girls trial was happening, all his family testified she was the problem, an alcoholic, yada yada. The DA called me. Would I be willing to testify for her.
I did, but never told them if I would or wouldn’t show up. I didn’t know myself until that morning. His public defender objected, and the Judge called for a 10 minute recess while he looked up the law on me testifying. After the recess, I was so visibly shaking the Judge asked 3 Bailiffs to stand between us, then said I could testify to any incidents that could be backed up by Police, Hospital or Doctors records, did I have anything relevant. Boy did I have relevant facts. After testifying about 20 minutes, the Judge interrupted me saying he had heard enough. He was sentenced to the maximum sentence, With No Time Served, meaning the 18 months or so that he sat in jail, awaiting his trial would Not Count or be applied to his sentence. My sister was able to get her nightly bit of revenge on my behalf for another few years. He wasn’t very popular among his cell block, needless to say.
He died in 2000. Family members saw the Obituary in the newspaper. I guess after getting out of Jail, he promptly left the state. He died 2,000 miles away. It really wasn’t the end for my children or me. I still have horrible nightmares, have been diagnosed with PTSD and will never ever get married again. Those 9 years were enough to last a lifetime for me. It’s been 4 decades now and I still can’t conceive even the thought of marrying again.
The GOP want to Repeal No Fault Divorce.
They want women to again live through what I was lucky enough to survive. They want women trapped in a marriage having babies.
I will fight that until my last breath in any way I can.
I’m sorry this is so long if anyone is still reading. Please please fight against any repeal of No Fault Divorce.
Lives will most certainly depend on it.
My God. I feel honoured to have been able to read your story. Thank you for sharing it. He was broken,never tried to fix himself, and tried to take you down with him. I am so grateful you and your children escaped. Sending love from across the ocean.
Thank you for your kind words. My daughter has no memory of her father at all. When they were small, sometimes at night I would hear my son telling his sister why they don’t see their Dad.
OJ’s obit should have been, “died, in prison.”
Yes she is the one who deserves the attention and Ron too. A murderer died, who should care?
“That’s what it takes: the batterer has to be stopped. He will not stop himself. He has to be imprisoned, or killed, or she has to escape and hide, sometimes for the rest of her life, sometimes until he finds another woman to ‘love.’”
That part. *shudder* thank you for this.
Rest in Peace Nicole.
Kim Goldman also had an excellent podcast telling the truth about the real OJ Simpson and the victims of that murderer. Daniel Petrocelli’s book about the civil trial where he represented Fred Goldman is also a must read. Most people have no idea that ALL of the evidence was finally presented at that trial that proved that Simpson physically abused Nicole and murdered Nicole and Ron Goldman.
Lest we forget…. One of the first things the Trump
Administration did was neuter the definitions of violence against women in the justice dept making it much more difficult to prosecute.
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/trump-domestic-abuse-sexual-assault-definition-womens-rights-justice-department-a8744546.html
The Court TV docuseries OJ25 (2020) is the best and most truthful account of the trial.
2016 Vulture interview with juror Sheila Woods:
I guess maybe black people cheering was less about O.J. and more about the politics of the LAPD at the time, police brutality. A lot of their catharsis was bigger than O.J. I can understand that. But at the end of the day, two people were murdered.
I think most people thought we based our decision on race. Race never came up in the topic of our deliberation, or even how the LAPD treated black people.
Like, regarding Fuhrman, none of his comments really …
The thing with Fuhrman was once his credibility was shot, you really could discount anything he said. He was definitely a liar — he lied on the stand — and when he came back to the court, he took the fifth on everything. Why would you trust anything he said? He was the detective that found all this evidence: the blood on the Bronco, on the back fence, on the glove … all of that created reasonable doubt.
Was there a moment in particular during the trial that really swayed your decision towards reasonable doubt?
Yeah, when they started talking about the blood evidence. There was, like, a milliliter of blood they couldn’t account for. And they found blood on the back fence of Nicole’s condo, and that particular blood also had the additive in there. That additive is only found in [a test tube of blood], so why would the blood sample on that back fence contain that additive unless somebody took the blood from the test tube and placed it there?
Do you think O.J. was framed?
I don’t know if he was necessarily framed. I think O.J. may know something about what happened, but I just don’t think he did it. I think it was more than one person, just because of the way she was killed. I don’t know how he could have just left that bloody scene — because it was bloody — and got back into his Bronco and not have it filled with blood. And then go back home and go in the front door, up the stairs to his bedroom … That carpet was snow white in his house. He should have blood all over him or bruises because Ron Goldman was definitely fighting for his life. He had defensive cuts on his shoes and on his hands.
O.J. only had that little cut on his finger. If [Goldman] was kicking to death, you would think that the killer would have gotten some bruises on his body. They showed us photos of O.J. with just his underwear just two days after, and he had no bruises or anything on his body.
Fred Goldman and Kim Goldman both denied Trayvon Martin’s murder was racially motivated, and Kim even said she agreed with George Zimmerman’s acquittal. Fred went after Sydney Simpson and Justin Simpson for money several years ago. They’re racist trash just like you.
Comments from an African American forum:
“Let's not be naive. It will also always be a part of pop culture because we live in a racist, white supremacist society. White America thinks that it is fine that they murder black people all day every day and get away with it. But this is the first high profile case we ever really saw where a black person (allegedly) murdered a white person and got away with it.
Make no mistake. They don't give a flying fµck about Nicole Brown and neither do I. White women like her get abused and murdered every day by their own people. Nobody would still be talking about this case with such fervour if the racial element didn't exist. Maybe when they care this much about black people getting murdered, I will have some fucks to give.”
“I don’t want to hear about all the mistakes the prosecution made. I want to know how he killed two people without a bruise, scratch or cut on his body.
How did he managed to rush home in his bronco and only have two drops of blood in/on the car?
How did he manage to have a cut on his hand but not on the glove?
Lastly, how did he managed to do all that stabbing and not manage any cuts to the glove?
Oh and manage to pull all of this off, and catch a flight. How?
This would better help me understand the “miscarriage of justice” everyone purports to have occurred.”
A lot of men are like this. They must feel in control and satisfy that through their actions. It is true - watch how a man acts around dogs, kids, and old people. If you think anything is strange in how they interact, don't question yourself why. Look for a man who is genuinely affectionate with animals, in particular.
I lived this story, I survived with my life, scarred. So many don’t.
From my experience, decades of education and training hasn’t changed the outcome.
It is luck and cunning that helps us escape
I lived south of LA and had to live through the barrage to media coverage. I know that O.J. was the monster the defense painted him to be. He easily guilty. .Nicole Brown Simpson and Ron Goldman never had a chance for justice. The pop culture adoration of a wealthy good-looking BLACK award winning athlete with a dazzling smile who became a pretty good actor gave a golden ticket and a get out of jail card.
The news coverage of OJs violence and Nicole’s best efforts to get help from the inadequate legal and social service systems were reported through a foggy lens. It never felt like she had any standing in the case. The whole trial was a circus that seemed to whiz by the actual evidence of spousal abuse.
There was solid evidence including Nichole’s documenting each violent episode. There were also witnessed who knew the truth. But it’s the same “women are not believed” against a beloved celebrity. This case drew international attention. It was a big message that abused woman don’t matter so just keep hour mouth shut.
That message is reinforced daily by what happens every nook and cranny across the world. Man purchases gun illegally, because he had a restraining order against him. man convinces girlfriend to talk to him. Woman chooses to come out onto the front porch because she had her sleeping child inside. They talk briefly. She refuses to leave with him. He pulls out a gun and kills her.
No restraining order saved her, no thorough background gun check saved her and a judge denied her request to have the restraining order extended because he didn’t bother to actually listen to her.
We are in a all,encompassing living pandemic of disrespect, anger, violence misogynistic beliefs which probably started by early man. Passed from generation to generation until it runs smack dab into a generation of educated, politicized, outspoken,self-sufficient, fearless women who stand up and demanded the right to vote. Current generations have gained much in society except when you look at violence against from
1 of 4 women will die in their lifetime from domestic violence with an intimate partner. Domestic violence - primarily men against women, intimately related, typically starts with actions like slap on the face, shoving, simulating strangulation , and verbal promises of increased violence.
Next is the danger zone. Most extreme violence aand death occurs after the woman and children attempt ro leave. Oir social system