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you would rather she get into a knockdown drag out fight with him that would make it better? I'm amazed that you are worrying about her having a clinical flat tone but you're not worried about Stevens tone.

this flat tone, called gray rock, is how you deal with narcissists, attempting to de-escalate, and she might actually love him still but she hurts too much due to his abuse to make it sound convincing. You're blaming her for wanting to leave. And Stephen's behavior only confirms that her wanting to leave is a rational response.

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